Two of my facebook friends are inspiring examples: one a young, single mom who recently had to lose her cell phone because of lack of child support. She merrily noted a workaround to get in touch with her and daily finds joy in her relationship with her son, her friends, her TV heroes, her church and God. Unpaid bills, a unsure future direction, and if onlys do not seem to rob her of joy. She is resourceful and it comes through loud and clear. I thank her for this model that encourages me daily.
The other is one of my cousins, who has lived one of the hardest lives I know. She approaches retirement with at least three jobs, having raised three now successfully grown kids through a nightmare of abuse and abandonment, doubt and debt, and has overcome more obstacles than most of us ever know. She is truly my (not-biological) sister in my love and admiration for her, and I think daily that she never gives up, embraces her students, friends, family and co-workers with a model of energy and tenacity that simply makes me a better person.
Where are you blaming others? Where are you resourceful in what you have, what you don't have, and how you choose to relate to the many people with whom you interact?
Want to lose the first and most critical piece of STUFF? Consider losing your BLAME mode every time it tries to take front and center stage in your heart.
